Business Coach Essex “Detachment means letting go and non attachment means simply letting be.” ― Stephen Levin

It is said that people get over their parents death faster than parents get over their children’s death.

Psychologists think they know why.

It is because adults do not imaging their parents in their future dreams.

On the other hand, adults bring in their life partners and children in their future dreams.

So when a loss happens, it is not only a loss now, but the future is also shattered.

And that is why the pain lasts long.

The pain and disappointment is deep when the future is involved.

It hurts more when our imagined future is shattered.

That is why failure hurts.

Especially when we have invested a lot in the future outcome.

This is why it is so important to be detached from the outcome.

By all means keep making progress towards your goals but don’t invest your energy in specific outcome


Nothing happens without this

31 August 2014

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.” – Walt Disney An object that appears to be moving in a straight line encounters several pulls to keep it off course. A rocket that is sent to the moon is ‘off course’ 97% of the time. An aircraft is constantly ‘off course’ […]

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Do you know the true path to your goal?

28 August 2014

“The Road goes ever on and on down from the door where it began. Now far ahead the road has gone, and I must follow, if I can, pursuing it with eager feet, until it joins some larger way where many paths and errands meet. And whither then? I cannot say” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The […]

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What is the price?

26 August 2014

“The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.” – Vince Lombardi Everything in this universe has two sides. The Yin and Yang. So does success. The other side of […]

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Mind the gap – there is money in it

21 August 2014

“Music is the silence between the notes.” – Claude Debussy A void always gets filled. A gap does not remain a gap for long. Silence has the same effect. In a conversation between two people, silence is rare. But silence has power. In selling, silence is golden. After asking your prospect a question, your job […]

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Please go backwards

19 August 2014

“Start with the end in mind.” ― Stephen R. Covey A young soldier wakes up in his army barracks one morning and begins acting very strangely. He spends all his time searching, looking under, in, behind – everywhere- in an obsessive search for something. When his commanding officer asks what is going on, the soldier […]

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Are you being used?

17 August 2014

“Anything that does not belong where it is, the way it is, is an “open loop” pulling on your attention.” David Allen I use to think I must manage my time wisely. My understanding was that time is there to be ‘used’. Now I look at it differently. All of us have 24 hours in […]

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What can great comedians teach us about building a great value bridge?

14 August 2014

“A winner is someone who recognizes his God-given talents, works his tail off to develop them into skills, and uses these skills to accomplish his goals.” – Larry Bird When you look at great comedians on stage, they look and sound effortless. It appears that everything is flowing smoothly and the comedian has natural talent. […]

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Why you should lead your market?

12 August 2014

“A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.” — John Maxwell If you want to be regarded as a leader in your field, then you must get out in front and stay there. When you are leading, there will be nothing in front to guide you. You will […]

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What to do next (when progress seems impossible)

8 August 2014

“The one thing all famous authors, world class athletes, business tycoons, singers, actors, and celebrated achievers in any field have in common is that they all began their journeys when they were none of these things. Yet still, they began their journeys”― Mike Dooley The King of procrastination is visiting you. The Queen of distractions […]

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